Truth time
People tend to say that confession is good for the soul. I don’t know about the soul part but getting the weight of truth off your shoulders can be a very liberating thing, as scary as it is. Actually, it is not the truth itself that is a burden but the pressure of keeping it from those around us, specifically those we care about.
Secrets are not the best foundation for a friendship, but we often feel that by keeping the truth from people we are protecting them. If we look inside, we will often find that the person we are trying to protect is really ourselves. We are afraid of what they will think, how they will feel about us. We are afraid that we won’t be able to make it ok afterwards. We are afraid that maybe we will lose them.
But at some point we have to bite the bullet and just come clean, face up to the fears we harbour and accept that we may lose the trust of those around us. There is often no way to make it better, and saying you are sorry can’t take back the deception. But if you are lucky, they will appreciate the courage it takes to be honest and when you rebuild the friendship will be stronger for having a foundation of honesty.
