ritual
Function: noun

1. the established form for a ceremony; specifically : the order of words prescribed for a religious ceremony
2. • a : ritual observance; specifically : a system of rites
   • b : a ceremonial act or action
   • c : a customarily repeated often formal act or series of acts

Air kisses with my mother, finger kisses, and pizza farewells. These are all some of the rituals I have been part of. Rituals allow groups of people to reinforce their identity. Whether between friends, family or couples, rituals are an important part of sealing a relationship.

Many rituals are inside jokes that help members feel like a part of the group, saying “I belong and you don’t”. Others are secret signals so even outsiders don’t know they have missed something. Others are just celebrations of being a group.

Last night I had my requisite surprise (but not a surprise) farewell (but not a farewell) pizza lyme with my pan folks. It seemed a bit surprising given that we were bothering given that I am only going to be away for 3 months. But when I thought about it I realized that it is these rituals as simple as they are that keep the group together. The few people that may have left without being bid farewell were never truly a part of the group - they stood on the outside (whether they realized or not).

So as you go through life, don’t ignore the simple rituals that join you to the people around you.

(4 DAYS TO GO!!!)