Fantasy life
It seems that very often our plans for ourselves are based on these future fantasies of what our life would be like if certain things change. There’s a lot of “If Only”s (if only I were… not single, thinner, famous, richer…) or it’s close cousin “One Day” (One day when I have a house, have a family, love my job…).
If we sit down and look inside ourselves, some of these fantasy wishes are more about how we think we will feel when we have these things. If we were famous we would feel more important, if we were thinner we would feel more beautiful, if we were not single we would feel loved.
If you manage to identify a feeling that you are after, take a look at your life now and see what things currently give you that feeling and incorporate more of them into your life. Or see what you can come up with that would also give you that feeling and work on bringing it into your life that way.
When you start to do this, you will be able to enjoy your life now, in the present and stop focusing on what needs to change before you can be happy. Once you become happier, it’s just possible that you will be that much closer to your ideal life.
Right now I am feeling kindacalm and
relieved...
