Steve Pavlina often proposes some interesting ways of navigating life. Recently he put forward a way to make smart decisions in less than 60 seconds. Sometimes in life we face decisions that involve one or more unknowns. We have to decide without knowing what the consequences of each alternative will be.  This is especially true of major decisions like quitting a job, or entering or exiting a relationship. His suggestion for these decisions, rather than just making a guess as to the “right” choice or freezing, is to consider each alternative and ask yourself, “Is this really me?”

It sounds almost simplistic but is a reasonably effective way of making a decision that you can live with.You may not end up choosing the easier path but it would be the right one for you. By constantly making your life decisions in the direction of the ideal you that you want to be, your true self, you are in fact moving yourself towards that vision, becoming more you. This is not to say you must act on every decision - you may not be ready to move forward but even admitting that that particular alternative is the one that’s right for you is a step in the right direction.

As I have said before, in Bianca’s choice theory, essentially every decision involves a choice between maintaining the status quo and making a change.  So take this opportunity to look around you, examine your life and identify what parts you can say are really you and what parts aren’t.