I make it a habit to not regret mistakes I make in life. Regret is a waste of time, I think. Rather than regret, I tend to look back to try to understand and learn from things I have done.
Interestingly enough, there are times when I look back and realize that even with the lessons learnt, if given the chance I would likely make the same mistake again. Usually, this is a result of acknowledging that the reasons for my actions would still be sufficient even with added knowledge.
I had that experience twice in one night this week. Two conversations. Two exes. Two loves that I would not give up for anything. I realized after talking to each of them that the reasons I fell for them in the first place are still valid and, under different circumstances (or similar shall we say), I would likely fall for them just as hard as I did.
It is interesting to think that with all my development efforts and personal growth, I am still enough of the same person that I could love the same people the same way.
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Does that mean that you had not stoppped loving them?
Heh heh. That is another story, another post.
My point is simply that I can see where I would fall for them if I met them today as they are and as I am.
Time spent wallowing in regret is time wasted, especially if no lesson is learnt. It’s prudent of you to be using your time to catch the lessons from the mistakes rather than to bemoan the mistakes themselves… deep post